For most of my life, I’ve lived in my masculine energy and I didn’t even realize it. Growing up in a family full of addiction taught me early on that I had to be strong, in control, responsible, and always ready to fix things. Then, when I became a business owner and built Bespoke Beauty, that masculine energy became my survival mode. I was the provider, the decision-maker, the one holding everything together. I walked fast, talked fast, planned everything, and pushed through exhaustion like it was normal.I was proud of being “strong.” But deep down, I was exhausted.Over the past few years, especially through my healing journey, I’ve been consciously working on softening into my feminine energy. And let me tell you, it’s been one of the hardest and most beautiful shifts I’ve ever made.So what do I mean by masculine and feminine energy? These aren’t about gender. Men and women have both. It’s about two different ways of being: Masculine Energy is more linear, focused, and protective. It’s about direction, structure, and getting things done. Masculine energy is in charge of time (schedules, goals, efficiency) It walks faster, talks faster, thinks in straight lines It loves solving problems and taking action Feminine Energy is more flowing, intuitive, and receptive. It’s about connection, emotion, and presence. Feminine energy is in charge of space (creating safety, beauty, and emotional depth) It moves slower, speaks softer, and feels more deeply It’s about receiving, nurturing, and being in the moment Other differences I’ve noticed: Masculine energy wants to provide and protect Feminine energy wants to feel seen, cherished, and safe Masculine energy is goal-oriented Feminine energy is flow-oriented For years I was almost entirely in my masculine, even in my relationships. I was the doer, the fixer, the strong one. I attracted men who leaned on me, and I didn’t know how to receive or soften. Now I’m learning (sometimes awkwardly) how to slow down, speak more gently, ask for help, and let myself be supported. I’m discovering how good it feels to be in my feminine and to create beauty, to feel, to receive love instead of always earning it. It’s not about abandoning my masculine energy completely. It’s about finding balance. I still run a business. I still get things done. But I’m no longer willing to live in constant “go mode.” I’d love to hear from you, are you more comfortable in your masculine or feminine energy right now? Have you been trying to create more balance too? Drop a comment below or send me a message. XO, KB